Ted Slocum

Absurdity, gambling, mindfulness, programming, golf, well-being, and my opinions.

14 Dec 2021

Obligations vs Values

One of the strange lingering effects of coming off of retreat is the change in attitude to what had previously been thought of as obligations; they now have a different feel to them. Rather than being burdensome, they are perfectly timed manifestations of my values and nature. They are a chance to do what I think is correct and what would bring about the most happiness.

I have even gone as far as thinking “obligations are not a real thing”. I’m really not obligated to anything or anyone. I’m not obligated to cook dinner. I’m not obligated to treat my girlfriend with any decency at all. Nor am I obligated to care for my Grandfather. I (attempt) to do all these things as they are no more than and no less than my cherished values and silly human nature projected on the task at hand.